The Way You Make Me Feel

So yes, I went on another date tonight. Someone I met very briefly at AX this summer who got my facebook address. We've never corresponded since but randomly this week he asked if I was free for dinner. So I said Yes. It's not that hard to get dates when you actually say yes. What most girls complain about isn't not getting asked out, it's not getting asked out by guys they LIKE. Which is dumb if you think about it. You want to be single and date a lot of guys you like but not establish any relationship with them? Wouldn't that just say bad things about you?

Anyway, not the point. What I think I learned tonight may seem obvious to others but it just occurred to me. This guy is CLEARLY not the one for me. He's a current goth club hopper, former cross dresser, with long tattoos and most of his facebook photos are of him with heavy white makeup screaming into a microphone. I'm not saying any of that is bad at all but why the heck would he get all flustered and twitter-pated about ME for goodness sake? Mormon white straight-laced girl with a style that came right out of the 1930s and 40s. I'm not wild or brave or anything like that. I don't or clubbing or get wicked drunk or curse. I don't even like the taste of fish. So why does he imagine this would work?

I don't have the details of the theory down but I think people don't fall in love with all the check lists of what would make a good relationship. Instead, guys like girls who are encouraging and sweet: Someone you feel comfortable with who brings out the best in him.

I'll never be a surfer girl or a raver or a super sports fan. In the end, some of those lifestyle choices make a difference in a successful long term relationship. But when people decide to put their heart into someone, it's much much much less based upon what you think you look like or what you do as it is the way you treat people. The way you make people feel.